December 11, 2009

Review and Giveaway: Divorce Sucks by Mary Jo Eustace

Synopsis:  Hock the platinum. Take down the vacation photos. Cancel the joint checking account.

There's no question . . . Divorce Sucks. And perhaps no one knows that better than author Mary Jo Eustace, whose ex-husband Dean McDermott married Tori Spelling a mere thirty days after their divorce was finalized. One part tell-all and one part guide to get readers on their feet after a bitter breakup, this hilarious addition to the bestselling Sucks series tells everything readers don’t want to know about divorce - from what a phone call with a lawyer will cost; to how to handle your newer, younger replacement; to what Hollywood divorcees are actually thinking when they watch their ex walk the red carpet with a millionairess. Sometimes horrifying, sometimes gratifying, and never merciful, this book will give readers an inside look at one of today’s most public divorces while reminding them - hey, it could always be worse.

I have to be honest.  I selected this book thinking that it was going to be Mary Jo Eustace's version of what happened during her infamous split from Dean McDermott, when he left her for Tori Spelling.  Trashy, I know.  But I thought maybe a light, gossipy book would be a nice change. 

Divorce Sucks, despite it's somewhat lighthearted, joking (and yet all too true) title, is a tell-all but not of the gossipy variety.  Instead, Ms. Eustace shares what it's like to be over 40 and facing an unexpected and sudden divorce.  Add to that the celebrity factor (Ms. Eustace was somewhat of a local celebrity in her native Canada, along with ex-husband McDermott, with Tori Spelling bringing the tabloids and entertainment news into what should have been a very personal family matter), two children (one of whom was an infant that had been adopted a mere three weeks before McDermott left) and a very recent relocation to Los Angeles, where Ms. Eustace had no ties, no employment and no roots.  Hmm, yes, I think the title might be fairly accurate.

I'll get this out of the way right now.  I have watched Spelling and McDermott's reality television show.  While I didn't and don't like how their relationship came about, I must admit that their program has been entertaining.  Mary Jo Eustace, however, was somewhat of  a mystery - - the "first wife", rarely mentioned in the media during the highly publicized split, other than in brief passing or reported as being McDermott's "older" former wife (a fact that Ms. Eustace jokes about during the course of her book).  Divorce Sucks proved to me that Mary Jo Eustace has a wonderful personality and pokes fun at herself in order to provide somewhat of a "how to" survive divorce and come through it with your emotional and mental health intact.

Despite the book not being the gossipy froth I had originally thought, and not going through a divorce myself,  I enjoyed the book.  I found Mary Jo Eustace to be down to earth and relatable.  She sells the book, thanks to her witty writing and ability to be humble.  She admits to feeling sorry for herself and says "hey, it's okay".  She admits to wearing the same shirt for months on end during her woe-is-me period.  She admits to feeling uncomfortable and out of sorts at being the only single gal at get-togethers with couples and wonders who exactly gets custody of the joint friends when you and your husband split up.  She talks about navigating the unknown waters of the dating pool as a single mother as well as going back to work to support herself and her children.  While McDermott and Spelling are mentioned, Ms. Eustace stays away from the low-blows and name-calling and focuses instead on how to get over and get beyond. 

Bottom line, even though I don't need the divorce advice for myself, I would enjoy sitting down over a glass of wine or a manicure to chat with Mary Jo Eustace.  Any reader looking for advice on how to deal emotionally with a divorce will benefit from her book, just as any reader looking for a book written in a chatty, comfy BFF style will enjoy picking this one up. 

Divorce Sucks is available at major booksellers, including Amazon and Barnes & Noble

Many thanks to Julie Harabedian and FSB Media for the opportunity to read and review this book.

Review copy provided by the publisher

And now for the giveaway!! 

FSB Media has provided me with a copy of Divorce Sucks to give away to a lucky reader.  Here is all you need to do if you'd like to pick up this copy: 

* Leave me a comment with an email address to contact you (worth 1 entry)

For 2 extra entries:

* Become a follower or subscriber of my blog (if you already are, thank you; let me know if you already are, and let me know if you become one) (Just click on the "Follow" or "Subscribe" buttons located on the left side of my blog)

For 3 extra entries:

* Add me to your blogroll and/or mention my giveaway on your blog or Twitter it (and leave a link)

That's all! You can get up to 6 entries! This giveaway is open to U.S. and Canadian residents only. No P.O. boxes.

The contest ends on Sunday, December 20 and I will draw the winner (using Randomizer) on Monday, December 21 and email the lucky readers.

Good luck!


Tales of Whimsy said...

A. I thought the same thing when I first heard of this book. *high five*
B. I love that you want to go get manis with the author. You're the cutest.
C. No need to enter me since I don't need the advice either but thank you for the review and opening my eyes on the truth behind this one.

Lee P said...

I'd love to read this book! Thank you for this giveaway and please count me in.

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Simply Stacie said...

Please count me in.

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mindy said...

sounds wonderful thanks minsthins at optonline dot net

wendy wallach said...

I know just who this will be for when I win it..

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Alyssa Kirk said...

No need to enter me either - my parents have been marries for 20 years and are going strong, while I'm 18 and don't plan on the marriage thing for awhile. I do feel for one of my good friends whose parents are going thru an ugly one...but I digress. Thanks for a good review and hope some lucky winner will enjoy this one!

Meredith said...

I enjoyed your honest and thoughtful review. You don't need to enter me in the giveaway, hopefully I will never need advice on divorce!! Thanks for the invite and for the review! I didn't even know this book was out there.

Kim Lo said...

I saw an interview with her and was impressed. She seemed very funny and real. I would love to read the book.

Kim Lo said...

I saw an interview with her and was impressed. She seemed very funny and real. I would love to read the book.

Kim L said...

Oops! An email would help:

Patricia Altner said...

Excellent review. Ms Eustace sounds like someone I would like to know and I certainly am interested in reading her book. She seems a prime example on how a woman can cope when dark reality hits.

I am a follower. said...

This book looks great. I too have gone through a sudden and painful divorce over the age of 40, and humor really is the best way to deal with it.

Great review, thank you so much.

Unknown said...

PLEASE include me in your drawing. I would love to exclude myself by saying "I don't need it," but I totally DO.

Anonymous said...

I would love to read this.


Dixie said...

Sounds like a good read, please enter me in the drawing.

Dixie said...

I follow your blog.
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Divorce said...

Separation and divorce really brings a lot of hurt for both individuals who used to believe that their love will see the through, only to be frustrated by so many things that caused their break up. The proceedings even add more insult to injury, as both undergo rigid questioning and tense dialogue.